One of the most basic instincts when confronted by triggers for your social anxiety, is the desire to become invisible. Have to talk in front of a large group of people? You wish they couldn’t see you. Have to walk down a busy street to get to the office? You wish you could weave your
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You might think that the answer to this question is obvious: in the first case, you make a decision, in the second, you don’t. But how about decisions that aren’t really decisions and are actually avoidance strategies; how about when not making a decision becomes a decision? Could you tell the difference then? Decision-making is
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Seasons Greetings, and a very Merry Christmas to you all, wherever you are in the world! However I know from my conversations with clients that, unfortunately, it’s not always a Merry Christmas, especially when you suffer from social anxiety and shyness. It can be an anxious time, with so many expectations about being ‘social’. There’s
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Avoiding anxiety and fear is hard work. It actually takes a lot of energy to keep those emotions away. What then starts to happen is that it increases our anxiety. We start to feel more anxious about feeling anxious, and that creates a problem. Listen to my video blog below for some useful insights on
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Fear makes us run away. Which is a good thing. Anxiety also makes us run away, and is largely not a good thing … but why? As I’ve said before anxiety is fear, in the absence of an actual threat (see: What is Anxiety). Now generally all emotions motivate behaviour, it’s what they do. The
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